my write path

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Yes, I am a writer. I am also a mother of four teenagers, one of whom is autistic. I am a wife. I am a friend. I am a sister, cousin, daughter. Of course between these descriptions, lie the details of my life. I won’t bore you with all those details but give just enough to illuminate how I’ve come to decide I am a writer.

My parents and I were at a family reunion in Oklahoma one year when I was about 10 years old. One evening, there was a big family dinner in a hall. The facilitator of the dinner went around the room and asked all the kids “what do you want to be when you grow up?” When it came to my turn I said “I want to be a writer.” That was the first time I had ever mentioned such thoughts. Had I taken myself seriously, I might have remained diligent in becoming one. But as the years went by with some successes but many disappointments, that dream vaporized. I would get married, have kids, eventually become a high school English teacher.

Teaching offered several things. It taught me to become more organized. I learned to confront personal issues (150 kids a day tests your self-perception- you need to have self-assurance.) There was the fulfillment of making a difference in a kid’s life. Among these things and others, it gave me a platform to share stories with my students. I began to remember that evening in Oklahoma again. I wrote poems, read them, had the kids write their own poems, (unless I told them a title, theirs was about love).

Fast forward to this year. My husband told me, “You need to write. You should quit your job.” I thought about this for oh, a minute, and said “Fine, you are right.” So here we are. I have plunged into this. Crazy to some – the world economy is turned upside down; distrust, scepticism abounds in the universe. But living honestly is part of the legacy I want to leave for my kids. I honestly believe God has given me a purpose to share my words because they matter.


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  1. Sheri

    Darlene – I read your blog about writing, Marcus, your experiences, and how God is holding your hand through this journey called life. I can’t really say that I “enjoyed” what I read; it was enlightening, but it was also heartwrenching to know some of the things you (and your family) have endured.

    I pray that as you continue to write, I hope you follow your heart. As I said on the phone, everytime you have followed your heart, it has resulted in a miraculous outcome. One example is when you left Oakland with four children to pursue an education in Arkansas … Arkansas!! A place where I believe you developed a better understanding of who you are and why you are here.

    I look forward to hearing more about Sophie and following her story. You have always written (whether it be poetry or a short story) with symbolism and depth, which has taught me to go beyond the words and ask “what is she really saying … what does she want me (or the reader) to really get from the words.”

    You are an amazing woman, and I’m so proud to call you “cousin, friend, and sister.”

    Love you,

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